Most of our conversations start at the surface — about schedules, frustrations, daily life. But beneath almost every comment is a quiet invitation: see me, hear me, know me.
When we respond too quickly, we often answer the words, not the feeling. Slowing down — even for a breath — lets us tune into the emotional signal being sent.
In therapy, this is called attunement: meeting someone where they are before moving them anywhere else. It’s how conflict softens, intimacy deepens, and trust slowly rebuilds.
Try this: next time you’re about to respond, pause for a moment. Notice what’s underneath the words. Ask yourself, What is this person really needing right now?
That’s where the deeper conversation begins.
* The information provided is for self-enrichment and not intended to replace any necessary mental health treatment.
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Warmly,
Jonathan Dixon, LMFT
Alpha Omega
