Frankl was referring to the prisoners in WWII concentration camps. The atrocities they suffered required them to go to extremes to survive immense and unimaginable psychological, emotional, and physical abuse. While it may be impossible for us to relate to their experiences, we share the same humanity and with it, the same survival instinct.
Many times, what we see as problems are actually adaptive coping strategies, formed in response to enduring some form of suffering. I’m reminded of another quote from John Bowlby, “All behavior makes sense in context”. This understanding is important because it validates the good reasons behind why we do what we do and what makes change so difficult. Genuine validation is something that none of us get enough us in this world, especially when it comes to what’s behind “abnormal” reactions or coping strategies. Often times, we need this context acknowledged before we can summon the courage to find new ways to cope. This isn’t meant to endorse or excuse behavior, certain ways of coping are simply not ok, AND making room for the reality behind the behavior can be the most effective way to change. Seeing behavior through this lens is an essential part of recovering from the abnormal circumstances that continue to impact us throughout our lives. No matter what life has required you to do to cope with your pain, it’s possible to free yourself from that pattern and it starts with normalizing your humanity.
* The information provided is for self-enrichment and not intended to replace any necessary mental health treatment.
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Warmly,
Jonathan Dixon, LMFT
Alpha Omega
