Trauma isn’t just something that happens to the mind—it deeply impacts the body and our relationships. “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk details this in depth. Complementing Van der Kolk’s work, Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory describes how our nervous system plays a pivotal role in how we respond to trauma, not just in moments of stress, but in how we connect with others. When we experience trauma, our body’s nervous system can become dysregulated, leaving us feeling disconnected, on edge, or unsafe in social situations. Without a sense of safety, the brain works in service of its own protection. This can make it hard to trust, communicate, or form secure bonds even if that’s what we need the most.
Healing isn’t just an individual process—it’s relational. Reconnecting with safety, both in ourselves and in our relationships, is key. Our bodies and minds need to feel grounded, and this happens most powerfully when we’re surrounded by people who can provide a sense of safety, security, and support. Healing begins when we allow ourselves to re-engage with the world in a way that feels safe, seen, and supported. We learn to outsource that self protective instinct to the loving arms of those closest to us. This helps the body release what it’s been holding on to, moving from a prison of pain to a field of freedom.
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* The information provided is for self-enrichment and not intended to replace any necessary mental health treatment.
Warmly,
Jonathan Dixon, LMFTAlpha Omega
